Okay, now things are fishy

Dating a unattractive man

As did the next person I ended up with. And if you're really unsatisfied, I wouldn't blame you for ending things. In general, men have their radars fine-tuned for beautiful women dressed in sexy clothing as they ignore every other woman around them.

Ending the relationship seems sad, but staying in it seems unsatisfying. Having done it a couple of times myself, I don't actually know whether it's worth it. In summary, looks can be problematic, and they're not forever.

As far as I know, there is no shortage of good-looking men G-men nor is there a high supply of gorgeous women to go around for everyone. Maybe it's a nice problem to have, but it's still a problem. All she wants is an honest, trustworthy, fun man who can bring stability into her life. She's got a few lovely angles but also a few unlovely ones. Our society judges people pretty harshly for speaking frankly about physical beauty and its role in relationships.

As did the next person

But there's this gross itchy feeling deep down, like you think you deserve a total dime-piece stunner and you're going to die unhappy if you aren't dating one. Or, like, not ugly, but not as pretty as some other girls I've dated.

And only you, finally, can choose how much. You've also dated hotter people, and you know that there's a certain testosterone tug that just isn't there in this relationship, nice as it is. And I went and dated someone hotter.

And if you're really

These rookies are usually good-looking women who don't know they have the potential to be hot. Here and there, though, I'd be staring at some buxom girl in one of my seminars, wondering what life would be like with someone else. And the messy truth, of course, is somewhere in between these two poles.

But that's not what I'm hearing. Maybe your style gets better, but your skin doesn't. Both of you will become very unhappy if your dick's just not invested in this relationship at all. But you shouldn't make this decision rashly. The U-man learns to spot potential beauty within a regular looking woman before G-men do.

She was a tremendous human being. Rather than being gorgeous, she's cute enough. Honestly at this point I don't know what to do.

Personality-wise, she's someone I could see dating for a long time, but she's a bit on the heavy side and just not as pretty as I wish she was. This is where the U-man outwits the G-man. Do with that what you will. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating.