It's really a beautiful thing

Dating my own race

And like a typical Hispanic woman raised around those types of remarks, I internalized what I'd heard, became resentful and coped by getting loud. Even a Puerto Rican, seemingly close in cultural traditions, was out of the question. When I argued that yes, it is possible to be with someone who loves you, respects you and treats you as an equal, I was met with skepticism and bounded viewpoints. We all have our own individual experiences, perceptions and what not so it's probably not true to make any generalizations about this topic.

Most Helpful Opinion mho Rate. And I dare say that's often what it takes to meet a worldly man. Whether we like them or not, for the most part, they hold true. Expanding my horizons led me to uncover that in order to live the life I've envisioned, I must also leave behind my upbringing and therefore a portion of my culture. We have free will to back up the fact that we can pick and choose who we want to be with.

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Just months prior to our conversation, he'd tried dating a Jamaican girl and said the differences were too much to bear. While perhaps choosing someone within your race can eliminate a layer of complications, I don't think it's a goal any of us should intentionally set out for.

If I could change who I was attracted to, I would because then it might actually be more likely that I would find a life partner and not be an old hag who has to hoard cats. Alas, the two parted ways. When I uttered this statement, I had no particular man in sight. It's really a beautiful thing. This time around, I wasn't wasting energy on determining the details or micromanaging the possibilities.

And as a single woman, I found myself questioning plenty of what I'd once assumed. Reply Opinion Owner i think everyone responds to their environment differently. Although I'm tall and of course for me, the taller the better. In short, I, too, matched a stereotype.

So instead of focusing on all of the negative things about interracial dating, why can't we see how good it would be if everyone did this. But having said that, I'm not denying there are racial stereotypes and prejudices within your own race and outside of it. After being single for something like two years, I found myself saying, among other things, I want to be with a worldly man. Thankfully, though difficult at the time, the relationship I was in came to an abrupt, but overdue ending. Perhaps in some, there is self loathing.

Over time, I've learned that stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. Being raised in The Bronx, I felt like an oddball.

And I dare say that's often